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Motivating Tips for Job Hunters Facing Burnout from Continued Rejection

A job market is an uncertain place, even at the best of times. Job seekers have the unenviable task of canvassing dozens of potential employers and inquiring about jobs. And the more positions you apply for, the more than likely that you will encounter rejection.


However, with each rejection, your mental state becomes negatively affected. As a job seeker, you can hardly afford to let this negative mental state keep you down, and you have to find a way to work around it. So how do you keep your confidence up in the face of multiple rejections? Below find answers solicited from my professional network on how job seekers can keep their outlook positive, even in the darkest of times.


1. Maintain Your Focus


Intentional reflection of the process is essential. So is keeping a way-forward state of mind. Let go of the past and ask yourself, what can I do about it? What is my greatest contribution? Refill your depleted tank - get fulfillment for your basic needs. Where do you get self-esteem and pleasure from? Build visibility in building good networks. Keep your spirits up.



2. Don't Take A ‘No’ Personally


Many people believe that a "no" from a potential employer means they are not good enough, not worthy. That isn't true. It simply means "no." Don't take it personally. See it as an opportunity to get a job that is a better fit for you. Also, ask yourself if your current job search strategy really works. Maybe it is time to refine it. Don't expect new results when doing the same things over and over again.



3. Adopt A Learning Mindset


Conducting a job search can be like learning a language—it has its own set of rules, it can be intensive, and it takes time to master. Adopting a learning mindset will help you to depersonalize rejections and setbacks—seek feedback, reflect on what you're learning, and refine your approach. You'll become increasingly more "fluent" in the process, which will bring you closer to the job you want.



4. Find Your Confident Calm


No doubt, consistent rejection is tough. However, we need to remember that rejection is also a regular part of life for nearly everyone. Focus on what you can control and ignore what you can’t. Look yourself in the mirror, remind yourself of your inherent value and find ways to find your confident calm and get to your zen place. Then get up, get to work, and try again. Good things will happen. Engage a Career Coach for Interview Prep as a way to remind you of the value you bring and your ability to communicate that value. Confidence goes a long way in securing future employment.



5. Get Clear on Your Vision and Design Your Dream Job


Create a clear vision for your ideal career. Go in-depth on what you would be doing, who you'd be working with, your office environment, how you would feel, how you would carry yourself, what you'd be wearing, what you'd be discussing—the works! Review it daily and start to fully embody that vision. You will notice you will start showing up in a much bolder way and kick doubt to the curb. If you are uncertain, connect with a Career Coach to engage in a Career Exploration process and really nail your vision.


Design your dream job and go ask the dream company for an interview—show them what you can do and why you're a great fit, even if they're not hiring. If You don't ask, you don't get!


6. Destroy Your Projections and Expectations


Discouragement is rooted in the conclusion that something should happen in a specific way within some pre-imagined time frame. It has no basis in anything other than our projections and expectations of what should be. This creates unnecessary (and unhelpful) angst and suffering in a process that should simply be about putting one foot positively forward each day until we land that new dream job.



7. Deploy Various Search Strategies


Continuous rejection may create feelings of helplessness when we have few strategies in motion, as we become reliant on a few bets taken. Just as a diversified portfolio yields the greatest probability of ROI on financial investments, the same logic applies to searches. The more strategies in motion, the greater the opportunity for a "yes" and the lesser the impact of rejection when received.



8. Cultivate A ‘No Means Next’ Mindset


Quickly getting past the rejection of a "no" is the key to job search resiliency. Oftentimes, job seekers get stuck on the "no." They rehash every step of the process, wishing they had said or done something differently. While a quick lesson learned is helpful, ruminating on the rejection will stall your job search and zap your energy. Instead, realize that rejection is simply part of the process.



9. Find an Online Workshop with Structure


Be accountable. A job search can be lonely and frustrating. So, get out (virtually) and sign up for an end-to-end course, private online group, and gain the ability to ask questions. You will get focused, motivated, action-oriented, and, hopefully, see better results. Reboot what you have been doing and get back on the horse! Engage in one-on-one Career Coaching to optimize every opportunity.



10. Socialize and Contribute


Socializing and engaging with friends or people who share similar values like you gives you a sense of belonging and being liked—something you are lacking with job rejections. It not only builds up your confidence, but it also gives you a chance to contribute something to their life, hence doing something of value. Often, while taking part in such interactions you may hear from an opening position you were not aware of.



11. Associate with Positive Influencers


If you are in career transition looking forward and associating with positive people, “influencers”, can move you and help you keep and build confidence. Add an influencer who can move you and others. Stay close to them.



12. Take Time for Self-Care


When experiencing ongoing rejection, many job seekers push harder, investing more time and energy. The opposite may be what is needed. Exercise, meditation, being mindful, or simply sitting in peace looking at nature can calm the nervous system. Ensure that self-care and mental breaks are a priority. Connect with a friend—they can lend an ear and raise your spirits.

© 2017 by Unlimited Potential with Julie Rose, Julie R Delgado, LLC