Refuse To Have a Limited Life
Jim Carrey once said in a commencement speech, “Fear will always be a player in your life, but you get to decide how much.” The art of creating a life without limits starts with your approach to uncertainty and fear. When you encounter a challenge, do you focus on what you want, or is your time spent on seeing all the things that are in the way of what you want?
Doing difficult things can drive creativity and innovation. When you encounter a stressors your brain will classify it as either a challenge or a hindrance. Challenges are stressors that are perceived as opportunities for growth and development, while hindrances are seen as barriers to achieving your goals. Learning to harness the discomfort and uncertainty of stressors in your life to promote creative thinking and innovation is the key to a life without limits.
If you want true freedom, and if you want to feel more alive than you ever have you need to practice one principle, "avoid nothing.” By avoiding nothing you can pursue your highest aspirations and have a life without limits. Individuals that consistently drive through rejections, failures, pain, fear, and uncertainty recognize that in life you need to be constantly changing or growing to feel truly fulfilled, so they buckle up and dive in.
Let’s look at several factors that can influence whether we classify stressors as hindrances or challenges.
Perceived Control. If you feel you have control of the stressor you are more likely to view it as a challenge rather than a hindrance. For example, if you believe you have the skills and resources to tackle a difficult task, you are more likely to approach it as a challenge.
A critical mistake that can keep you playing small is to evaluate if you have what it takes to complete the task only considering your existing current skills and resources. Remember, you are a constantly evolving being. If you do not have the required skill(s), find a way to gain that competency, outsource the need, or take small steps to break the stressor down into manageable steps that can be tackled one at a time. These things can help you feel less overwhelmed and more in control.
Perceived resources: If you feel like you have the resources to deal with a stressor, such as time, support, money, or information, you are more likely to view it as a challenge versus a hindrance.
Similar to the critical mistake identified above, if your only framework for determining adequate resources is your current reality, you are limiting yourself to how you can accomplish what you want “easily”. To accomplish great things, you need to move outside your comfort zone. Here are a few ways to overcome a perceived lack of resources.
1. Seek out additional resources: Research available resources that can help you deal with the stressor. This could include seeking out financial assistance, joining support groups, or connecting with a mental health professional.
2. Be resourceful: When faced with a lack of resources, it's important to be resourceful and think outside the box. This could include finding creative solutions, seeking out alternative resources, or adapting to the situation.
3. Prioritize: Identify the most critical resources you need to deal with the stressor and prioritize your efforts to obtain them. This can help you focus your efforts and maximize the impact of the resources you have available.
4. Develop a plan: Develop a plan to obtain the resources you need and break it down into smaller steps. This can help you stay focused and motivated and make progress toward your goal.
5. Don't be afraid to ask for help: Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Reach out to friends, family, or colleagues for support, and don't hesitate to seek out professional help if needed.
Previous experience. Your past experiences with similar types of stressors can influence how you perceive the current one. Successfully coping with something similar in the past provides a reference point that it is not only possible to deal with the stressor, but the probability of success is high.
If you have no previous experience, the following are ways to overcome this hurdle.
1. Educate yourself: Do some research on the stressor to gain a better understanding of what it entails. This can include reading books, articles, or watching videos about the topic.
2. Seek guidance: Seek out people who have gone through a similar experience and ask for advice. T